Love, is it overrated?
Two years ago, I stated “I would fall in love again.” As a widow of several years, I thought it would be a nice thing and believed my heart was open to receive love again. But love has yet to come. Actually, I don’t know what it would look like. Having lived a single life for many years, I don’t desire to share my living space and I’m quite protective of my time. I’ve done so much soul work or so I think, that I run at the slightest whiff or hint of an unhealthy relationship (my definition of course). I’m not interested in being married again. I don’t think I have what it takes nor do I have the desire to invest the time or energy into the work that marriage requires. This too, is the reason, I won’t get a pet (LOL!). I love doing as I please, without having to check in or consider anyone else in my decision making. I know this sounds selfish, but I’ve discovered that many single men and women feel the same way. I also believe that it’s unnatural for men and women not to be mated and I believe that God never intended for us to live with this large chasm between us. Then there’s the issue of sexual health. Just as it’s unnatural to be without a mate, it’s also unnatural and unhealthy to go without sex indefinitely. So I often wonder, as pointed out earlier, what does falling in love look like, for a woman in particular, when she doesn’t want to be married and needs to remain in a state of celibacy because of her spiritual and moral convictions. I would like to hear what others think about this. Let me hear from you.
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